This post is practical, and I hope it helps you deeply. It's also my manifesto.
I wrote this because anyone can feel down in the dumps.
We can have low self-esteem and feel anxious, scared, or lacking confidence.
However, with many life stressors today, including a global pandemic, financial crisis, and increased civil unrest, 100 million people are emotionally distressed.
According to recent findings from the U.S. Census Bureau, a third of Americans show signs of clinical anxiety, negative thoughts, and depression amid the coronavirus pandemic.
But you don't have to stay in that sunken place for days, weeks, or months or allow external stressors to keep you feeling low.
Having constant negative thoughts can lead to the following:
There are healthy ways to acknowledge your feelings and shift your attention back to hopefulness, gratitude, and optimism. I like to do an exercise called "telling a better story," psychologically known as positive self-talk. It is an effective stress reduction technique. From correcting negative things to coping with negative aspects, positive talk work changes lives.
But before discussing how to talk to yourself positively, let's talk about self-talk and how to spot negative thoughts. We'll also look at some specific ways that people talk to themselves.
We all have conversations with ourselves. It's normal and happens to us all the time. That little voice in your head tells you what it thinks that really tells you how well you did.
Self-talk is the endless stream of automatic thoughts in your head, whether positive or negative.
Your motivational self won't disappear, and your positive self-talk won't improve overnight. Remember that you've probably been hard on yourself for a long time. And it takes time to change a habit. But don't give up.
There are many benefits, and they are well worth it. Over time, you will see that positive self-talk improves your life in many ways.
Let's take a look at how you handle positive and negative things. Which of these sounds like something you might say to yourself?
A: "I can't wait to say what I think in front of many people!"
B: "I'm going to look bad in front of many people. I'd rather not do it. "What can I do to get out of this?"
A: "Let's make this day stand out!" I'll smile about it when I see my younger self in the future and show them this picture."
B: "I don't want to have my picture taken. Maybe I don't look good. "What's my reason?"
A: "What a great bunch of people! I'll tell them about myself."
B: "What are they going to think of me? If I try to talk to them, I'll look stupid. What if I say something weird?"
A: "Hmm... this job posting is interesting. It seems like something I would like. Let's try it out."
B: "I think this is important, but I don't have all the skills listed. How could they choose me? I shouldn't even try."
If most of your answers are A, you talk to yourself nicely. If most of your answers are B, you negatively talk to yourself.
When I have days that I feel anxious, scared, or just a little nervous about a situation, I grab my journal and write a better version of the problem or make several positive affirmations.
Here are other things to consider:
Positive self-talk can help you do better at work and other everyday tasks. Your mental health can also improve if you try to see the bright side and positively talk to yourself. Additional perks include a more robust immune system, less pain, less stress, and a happier life. More optimistic people also have better mental skills that help them solve problems and deal with tricky situations better.
Few things are required to have a positive inner dialogue with our own self. These are:
The inner voice of the negative self can be improved with the help of motivation, gratitude, resilience, and positive affirmations. Positive words and positive people around you leave positive statements for you. Mental health professionals say one must work on positive thoughts to have positive thinking. Ultimately, it will get stress reduction.
You can also change the way you think by carefully putting positive statements and mantras within where you live and work. This will remind you to stay in a positive and caring place. Stay in the moment to avoid sending negative messages to your subconscious.
Positive affirmation examples to help you get started:
According to the Mayo Clinic, health benefits from positive thinking include the following:
As I mentioned, I like to write things out the old-fashioned way. Writing is therapeutic for me, but please do whatever feels natural to you. Below are my thoughts and feelings from my December 13, 2019 journal.
I started to let negative thoughts in my head discredit the incredible life experiences I've had in the past ten years, but that is because I didn't start the past ten years with clarity, vision, or the realization of how amazing a deliberate creator I can be. These past ten years gave me so much that I didn't even know I needed. Despite that, the universe was on my side in helping me find my way.
Always remember that excess of everything is bad. And being positive every time can be dangerous. Wondering how? Read: Positivity is Sometimes Toxic
If you are in panic situation, read our blog about How To Help Yourself During A Panic Attack!
While this positive self-talk practice feels very timely based on all the economic, political, and social hardships happening almost simultaneously around the globe, this practice is timeless. Whether you are experiencing a pandemic-level problem or feel down in the dumps and could use a pick-me-up, the science-backed approach of positive self-talk is a simple exercise you can put in your emotional first-aid toolkit.
Between the negative stigma of seeking mental health resources, the high cost of a private therapist, and the shortage of mental health professionals, people need more personal, low-cost ways to self-heal from home.
That's why I made well-being and healing my life's work.
If you’re struggling with negative messages from your low self and want to be kinder to yourself, I can help.
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