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March 20, 2023

How to Positive Self Talk Blog

In this blog post, you’ll learn how to use positive self-talk, what are its examples, benefits, and techniques. It also shares how self-talk will groom your personality.
Tamar Blue
Tamar Blue

This post is practical, and I hope it helps you deeply. It's also my manifesto.

I wrote this because anyone can feel down in the dumps.

We can have low self-esteem and feel anxious, scared, or lacking confidence.

However, with many life stressors today, including a global pandemic, financial crisis, and increased civil unrest, 100 million people are emotionally distressed.

Role of Negative Thinking

According to recent findings from the U.S. Census Bureau, a third of Americans show signs of clinical anxiety, negative thoughts, and depression amid the coronavirus pandemic.

But you don't have to stay in that sunken place for days, weeks, or months or allow external stressors to keep you feeling low.

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Side Effects of Negative Thinking

Having constant negative thoughts can lead to the following:

  1. Pessimism
  2. Chronic stress
  3. Low quality of life
  4. Low self-esteem
  5. Cognitive distortions
  6. Mental health issues
  7. Poor communication

What's the solution?

There are healthy ways to acknowledge your feelings and shift your attention back to hopefulness, gratitude, and optimism. I like to do an exercise called "telling a better story," psychologically known as positive self-talk. It is an effective stress reduction technique. From correcting negative things to coping with negative aspects, positive talk work changes lives.

But before discussing how to talk to yourself positively, let's talk about self-talk and how to spot negative thoughts. We'll also look at some specific ways that people talk to themselves.

What is Positive Self-Talk

We all have conversations with ourselves. It's normal and happens to us all the time. That little voice in your head tells you what it thinks that really tells you how well you did.

Self-talk is the endless stream of automatic thoughts in your head, whether positive or negative.

Positive self-talk deliberately focuses on a more positive narrative of ideas.

Your motivational self won't disappear, and your positive self-talk won't improve overnight. Remember that you've probably been hard on yourself for a long time. And it takes time to change a habit. But don't give up.

There are many benefits, and they are well worth it. Over time, you will see that positive self-talk improves your life in many ways.

Analyze: What do you think of yourself?

Let's take a look at how you handle positive and negative things. Which of these sounds like something you might say to yourself?

A: "I can't wait to say what I think in front of many people!"

B: "I'm going to look bad in front of many people. I'd rather not do it. "What can I do to get out of this?"

A: "Let's make this day stand out!" I'll smile about it when I see my younger self in the future and show them this picture."

B: "I don't want to have my picture taken. Maybe I don't look good. "What's my reason?"

A: "What a great bunch of people! I'll tell them about myself."

B: "What are they going to think of me? If I try to talk to them, I'll look stupid. What if I say something weird?"


A: "Hmm... this job posting is interesting. It seems like something I would like. Let's try it out."

B: "I think this is important, but I don't have all the skills listed. How could they choose me? I shouldn't even try."

If most of your answers are A, you talk to yourself nicely. If most of your answers are B, you negatively talk to yourself.

Escaping from a negative self is NOT simple...

When I have days that I feel anxious, scared, or just a little nervous about a situation, I grab my journal and write a better version of the problem or make several positive affirmations.

Few things to point out

  1. If you do not like writing or find it difficult to read your handwriting, type it instead.
  2. You can use the voice recorder on your computer or phone if you do not want to type.
  3. Before you start, ensure you are in a quiet space or know you won't be disturbed. Silence your phone notifications.
  4. The length of what you say, type, or write does not matter.

Need help getting started?

Here are other things to consider:

  1. Positive self-talk is not selfish or a form of narcissism, nor is it only for one gender or culture. It's a therapeutic form of self-love/care for everyone.
  2. This practice is weird initially, so be patient with yourself.
  3. You may not know what to say (see positive affirmation statements below for examples).

The Impact and Power of Positive Self-Talk

Positive self-talk can help you do better at work and other everyday tasks. Your mental health can also improve if you try to see the bright side and positively talk to yourself. Additional perks include a more robust immune system, less pain, less stress, and a happier life. More optimistic people also have better mental skills that help them solve problems and deal with tricky situations better.

Inner Dialogue With Your Low Self

Few things are required to have a positive inner dialogue with our own self. These are:

✨ Self-Confidence

  • Believe in yourself and your abilities, for self-confidence is the key to success.

✨ Self-belief

  • Embrace your inner strength and self-belief to let it guide you towards your dreams and aspirations.

✨ Self-worth

  • Remember that you are invaluable; external standards cannot measure your worth.

✨ Self-acceptance

  • Recognize that your flaws make you unique and beautiful in your way.

✨ Self-compassion

  • Understand that kindness starts within, and being compassionate towards yourself is just as important as being compassionate towards others.

✨ Self-respect

  • Demand self-respect for yourself because you deserve to be treated with dignity and consideration.

✨ Self-love

  • Cherish the unique person that you are, and practice self-love to nurture your well-being and happiness.

The inner voice of the negative self can be improved with the help of motivation, gratitude, resilience, and positive affirmations. Positive words and positive people around you leave positive statements for you. Mental health professionals say one must work on positive thoughts to have positive thinking. Ultimately, it will get stress reduction.

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‍Positive Affirmations for Mental Strength

You can also change the way you think by carefully putting positive statements and mantras within where you live and work. This will remind you to stay in a positive and caring place. Stay in the moment to avoid sending negative messages to your subconscious.

Positive affirmation examples to help you get started:


  • I am grateful to my team and colleagues because they support me.


  • I am grateful for the love I already experienced from my friends and family because it makes me feel cared for.


  • I am grateful for the experiences in my life because they make me feel wiser moving forward.


  • I am grateful that I am in this strong body.


  • I love myself more each day.
  • I rejoice in my uniqueness.
  • I approve of myself.

Positive Self-Talk Leads towards A Better Life

According to the Mayo Clinic, health benefits from positive thinking include the following:

  1. Increased life span
  2. Lower rates of depression
  3. Lower levels of distress
  4. More excellent resistance to the common cold
  5. Better psychological and physical well-being
  6. Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
  7. Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress

My Internal Dialogue Delivery Experience

As I mentioned, I like to write things out the old-fashioned way. Writing is therapeutic for me, but please do whatever feels natural to you. Below are my thoughts and feelings from my December 13, 2019 journal.

I started to let negative thoughts in my head discredit the incredible life experiences I've had in the past ten years, but that is because I didn't start the past ten years with clarity, vision, or the realization of how amazing a deliberate creator I can be. These past ten years gave me so much that I didn't even know I needed. Despite that, the universe was on my side in helping me find my way.

  • I learned that practicing gratitude is the best thing I could ever do.
  • I gained an even deeper appreciation for honoring my body as a temple.
  • I've had so many adventures.
  • I've met more amazing people in the last ten years than my entire life.
  • I've learned to set boundaries to protect my energy.
  • I learned to be a better communicator, friend, and partner.
  • I've learned to be more intentional.
  • I've improved my diet (although I still love the occasional Oreo).
  • I pray more now than ever before.
  • I've learned to dream bigger than I ever knew I could.
  • I experienced heartbreak, survived, and dared to love again even more profoundly first aid myself.
  • I've gained a life partner.
  • I've gained richness in friends, new skills, excellent health, and purpose.

Always remember that excess of everything is bad. And being positive every time can be dangerous. Wondering how? Read: Positivity is Sometimes Toxic

If you are in panic situation, read our blog about How To Help Yourself During A Panic Attack!

Positive Thoughts: Key Findings

While this positive self-talk practice feels very timely based on all the economic, political, and social hardships happening almost simultaneously around the globe, this practice is timeless. Whether you are experiencing a pandemic-level problem or feel down in the dumps and could use a pick-me-up, the science-backed approach of positive self-talk is a simple exercise you can put in your emotional first-aid toolkit.

Life is what you make it.

Between the negative stigma of seeking mental health resources, the high cost of a private therapist, and the shortage of mental health professionals, people need more personal, low-cost ways to self-heal from home.

That's why I made well-being and healing my life's work.

If you’re struggling with negative messages from your low self and want to be kinder to yourself, I can help.

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